This past week, I’ve been thinking a lot about telling myself the truth.
This can be harder than it sounds.
Blake and I had a situation arise that was slightly challenging, and in the moment I was in a bit of distress and had lots of feels and frustration.
Blake knows me really well. Sometimes better than I know myself.
So he asks me, “Are you frustrated with me?”
Along with all of these feels and frustrations, I am also very logical, and know that I SHOULDN’T feel frustrated with Blake. Blake = Amazing.
So I tell him, “No, I'm not frustrated with you... I’m frustrated with the situation.”
(Situations are perfect scapegoats)
The problem is, I really was frustrated with Blake. And He knew it. But I wasn’t willing to own it, or figure out why.
Until half an hour or so later when I got quiet and the Holy Spirit started digging.
Being honest is risky sometimes.
It takes vulnerability.
Which I’m slowly getting better at.
So I owned my feelings and apologized and got to some root issues of how I respond. I never would have figured any of that out if I had just blamed the situation because it was easier.
Telling the truth is more crucial than we can imagine.
Abraham is a great example of this situation. I love this guy.
God promises him a son, an heir, and this guy is old… like OLD. It will take a miracle for this to happen.
But in Romans 4:19 it says, “Without weakening in his faith, he faced the fact that his body was as good as dead - since he was about a hundred years old - and that Sarah’s womb was also dead.”
Abraham is a gutsy guy. He doesn’t ignore the facts. He doesn’t gloss them over, or imagine that he’s really a young, stout man capable of having kids.
He looks his situation in the face and says, “Yep, this is bad. I’m as good as dead.”
Guys, life can be messy.
Facing our mess fully and honestly can be one of the hardest things we do.
We can be so used to dressing things up, or sweeping things under the carpet, or distracting ourselves with a song and dance - that taking a long, hard look at our crap is really, really uncomfortable.
Most of us avoid it at all costs.
Joyce Meyer even says in her book The Battlefield of the Mind:
“I don’t think there is anything more emotionally painful than facing the truth about ourselves and our behavior. Because it is painful, most people run from it. It is fairly easy to face the truth about someone else - but when it comes to facing ourselves, we find it much harder to handle” (p 229)
But this guy Abraham goes there. And does it without weakening in his faith.
See, God won’t resurrect something if we pretend it isn’t dead.
Let that sink in.
God won’t set the captive free if we are denying we are in any sort of prison.
The children of Israel cried out for years and years to be set free from their slavery in Egypt and He heard their prayers and answered.
They weren’t ignoring their slavery or simply “positive thinking” their way out of their situation. They humbled themselves, said THIS IS AWFUL! DELIVER US! and called on Almighty God to save them from their slavery. They knew He could do it. They knew He WOULD do it.
I believe God is attracted to honesty, vulnerability, neediness, and dependency.
He loves to come near and show Himself strong on our behalf.
He longs to add His Truth to our truth.
There’s a big difference between the truth, and the Truth.
And we need both.
After Abraham faces the truth of his situation, he decides to hold fast to the Truth of his situation:
This verse right here, tho.
So, so good!
The Truth = the Promise.
When we face the truth of our situation, and look at the dead areas, and see the mess, it can be so disheartening.
We NEED to know the Truth of what God has promised, and that will set us free.
God’s promise will bring such hope and life, if we will hold fast to it.
How do we tell ourselves the truth? And then tell ourselves the Truth?
- Get Real. Take an honest inventory of your heart, your situation, your feelings, and what is REALLY going on. Own it. Even if it’s uncomfortable and ugly. Ask the Holy Spirit for help. One of my favorite passages for this is Psalm 51. I often have a hard time knowing what is going on in my heart, but the Holy Spirit knows. He can show me. “Behold, you delight in truth in the inward being, and you teach me wisdom in the secret heart.” Psalm 51:6. Beware that it might be really hard. Even the Apostle Paul declared, “Oh wretched man that I am” when he took honest inventory of his heart and actions.
- Get ahold of God’s Truth. What does God have to say about this area of your life? Even if it’s dead and broken, He always brings life and wholeness. Find out! Google some verses on your topic. Ask a trusted friend who knows the Word. Ask the Holy Spirit what He thinks about this situation.
- Let yourself be persuaded. Abraham was fully persuaded by God’s promise. Even though the natural told him something else, He knew God was able. Meditate on God's promise to the point that you are fully persuaded. Speak it out loud. Tell yourself the Truth. I like to put up verses on my mirror that I'm needing to be persuaded about. That way I don't focus too much on the dead, but I can see what God is bringing to life!
How honest are you with yourself? Do you need to take a good look at what is going on? Figure out what God's promises are for you, and hold on tight. Own them. Take Heart! He who promises is Faithful!